We had some heated discussions this year over Thanksgiving... who should have it in our family... and who was going to attend.. or not.
My perspective is that Thanksgiving is arguably the only Holiday that hasn't been ruined by commercialism, decadence, self indulgence, and conspicuous consumption (if you discount overeating?).
It is one of the only Holidays that absolutely demands a sit-down meal, and no-one needs to give or recieve any sort of gift.
I also believe it is a keystone of Family togetherness, and a perfect excuse to get everyone together, regardless of any dis-functionality, ill feelings, personal grudges, etc. These can be tabled for a day (hopefully), and if not, it makes for great and humorous tales afterwards.
I demanded that we, the grandparents, hold it at our house until either a.) we die, or b.) my wife's cooking becomes so bad that someone becomes violently ill.
Why? Because I believe again that it is a keystone of family strength and solidarity and togetherness, and if you lose it... the family shatters and becomes dis-lodged.
That said, my message to the kids was "Be there.. or else you are disgracing the family.. end of story". Feedback was understandably mixed, but ALL are going to attend.
Done deal.
